Consent

Consent is as important to me as it is to you.

What is consent? Consent is FRIES: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic and Specific.

Isn’t booking a sex worker consent?

Well, no.

You and Consent

While there is a list of services I offer, they are just that; offered. At any time throughout our time together, you are in complete control. What you want to do, when you want to do it, is always in your hands. The implication of our booking is purely on my behalf, and what follows is up to you.

This stance may seem obviously straight forward, however some clients insist on me being the instigator of sexual acts, and rebuff my asking for consent as we progress. ‘Can I kiss you?’, ‘Would you like me to do this harder/slower/softer/faster?’ Most of the time, once I state the importance of consent, these clients will say something like ‘Yes, I consent to everything’ or ‘do what you want to me’.

My Consent

To clarify, the above consenting to ‘everything’ etc, only ever means; kissing, touching, mutual handjobs, mutual oral sex and penis in vagina (PiV) intercourse. Beyond that, further consent needs to be given for a range of other play practices; ass smacking, choking, anal play, deep throating and anything beyond this reach. BDSM play absolutely runs on enthusiastic and specific ongoing consent, with a designated safe word and previously communicated consent (email/SMS details of preferred play structure).

Your safety, security, comfort and consent is paramount to our experience together. This is also true for my side. When accepting a booking, I am consenting to provide the above services, but there are still limitations to that. If I feel unsafe, by circumstances being different than originally provided or if there is stealthing (two attempts so far), then I will immediately end the booking and, especially in the case of stealthing, I will ‘Report a Mug’ to various SWer sites, or possibly make a police report if required.

Here are the recent Sexual Consent laws passed in NSW, and while we’re yet to follow other states about Stealthing, it certainly is sexual assault as I am only consenting to PiV while wearing a condom. This includes any genital to genital contact, like vulva on penis sliding etc.

At the end of the day, I want nothing more than for you to feel completely safe and comfortable with me, knowing that how our time together unfolds is all in your hands. Mutual respect, communication and consent is absolutely key.

Couples

While I no longer advertise seeing couples, I do still accept these bookings, where I see fit. No longer advertising them means I don’t get 2am text messages from a guy wanting me to ‘fuck his wife’. Instead I’m getting lengthy email introductions, mostly from the woman, often outlying the communication between the couple and their expectations.

Cuckold bookings are just that, and anything beyond that needs to be consented to (verbally) in the moment by all parties.

My focus is always all about the woman’s pleasure, and where I’ve agreed to a straight MMF, this is about two men doting upon the woman, and not some porno fantasy of the man. Derogatory comments, slut shaming, humiliation or any negative words or actions made by the male are absolutely unacceptable, unless their partner has explicitly outlined her desire for this scenario prior to the booking.