Physical Attraction

On my NGL anonymous questions, I was recently asked: 'Does physical attraction ever play a role in whether you accept a client?'

A lot of the time I won't know what someone looks like until they show up. There are a few things I do to check that someone making an enquiry for the first time is a real person, and sometimes that can reveal a photo, but how someone looks never plays a part on 'accepting' a booking.

Accepting any client purely comes down to whether I agree that I would be a good fit for them. If it was one half of a couple wanting to watch me jack hammer the woman for an hour or two straight, I'm not the right guy. Everyone who has a made genuine enquiry, that aligns with my service, I have 'accepted' as a client. Sometimes, either of us may find the other isn't the right for our needs (needs on my end are as simple as respecting boundaries) and may not see each other again after that first date, or possibly further down the line.

But the reason I decided to write a whole blog to answer this question is because it also aligns with similar questions/statements I've had there before, like 'When content consistently features slim, glamorous types it can be intimidating for those who don't fit that aesthetic'. I did reply to that (my fans content, like all pWn, is for entertainment purposes) on my instagram stories, but it does feed into a narrative I keep seeing.

For my first few years in the industry, I would see my female peers say things like they would rather a dad (over forty, not really in shape) as a client than a young fit man. At the time, I figured they were just saying that because marketing, reinforce to their current demographic that they do want to be with them. But I've realised they were actually just being honest. If someone is classically, physically attractive, but they're not a good person, then they are simply ugly, through and through.

Attraction for me is all about personality. Sexual chemistry comes from connection, something I can have far more of with my clients than those who I shoot videos with. I would much rather hot, reciprocal kisses than soulless performative actions. Which is also something I am trying to bring into my content moving forward, only working with those that also aim for authentic connection rather than just go through the motions to make a buck.

These comments about 'slim glamorous types' also brings up my own self image views. When I first started in this work, every other guy out there was about ten years younger, and substantially fitter than I have ever been, and I was younger and slimmer than I am now! For the first few years, anytime I met someone new and it came to the time of taking my shirt off, I was mentally preparing to hear a 'oh, this is not what I'm paying for'. It's never happened though. And I certainly don't fit into any 'slim' category, and I feel very self conscious when I film with people that do fit into that category, or at least I do when I'm alone and editing the footage together.

When it comes to attractiveness, the simplest trait to go by to achieve this, is in a succinct wrap up of the teachings of Buddha and Jesus: ' Don't be a cunt.'